8th house experiences are those we decided not to tell anyone
Now I would like to tell you more about 8th house in your birth chart. This is the house which is mainly responsible for all our crises in life. This house is originally ruled by Scorpio, so this makes it the most mysterious of all houses and very hard to read. Scorpio represents everything what is hidden and buried underground, things and situations we tend to repress in our lives and choose not to deal with. These repressed “things”, feelings and situations are stored in our unconscious mind and that´s why they literally rule our lives and behaviors. This is the main reason we all should heal our 8th house wounds. Otherwise we will still be prisoners of our past, acting on autopilot. This house is also house of mystery, occult, magic, sex, your spouse´s money, taxes, deepest fears, death, transformation and deep psychology. This is also the house which makes psychiatrists and therapists rich because they have enough clients to deal with.
We all have 8th house stuff. Even if you don´t have any planet in this house in your birth chart, you still have your 8th house issues. If you want to find out yours, just check the sign which is on the cusp of this house. For instance, if you have Aries on the cusp of the 8th house, then look for the placement of your birth chart Mars (Aries ruler) and aspect it makes to other planets and their birth chart placements. There are your 8th house issues. If you want to avoid your 8th house stuff, just remember that life is smarter than you. That´s why we have transits of slowly moving planets to “wake this stuff up”. These transits of slowly moving planets through this house are equally important. When Pluto, Neptune, Uranus or Saturn transits this house, get ready to deal with your 8th house issues not only on psychological level but also on material level. When my Uranus transited through the 8th house I divorced my husband.
8th house is very interesting when it comes to love relationships. We all know that 7th house is house of committed relationships, such as marriage. But. 7th house is really only that “marriage ceremony”, real life happens in the 8th house. This is where it´s at – when it comes to daily functioning with your mate. Here you decide who wears the pants at home, who goes to job and who stays at home with kids, who pays the rent and bills, where you go on holiday and how often, who takes out the garbage and who cleans the toilette. Here are all lies you tell to your spouse, your trust issues, all abusive tendencies you practice in your relationship, all manipulations towards your loved one, your extramarital affairs, your secretive obsessive fantasies about that new colleague, your jealousy and betrayals, your withdrawn behavior….Here is also your divorce and how much you have to pay on settlement. That´s why I still believe if you want to know if you are capable to create healthy relationship, just check your 8th house.