I firmly believe that having Saturn aspects in synastry is the most important „thing“ why your relationship is succesful long term but also can represent very painful break up and ending of the relationship. Unfortunately, it is not about how you choose it to be, but the outcome of Saturn relationship depends on whether the aspect between you two is soft or hard.
One thing is sure: with easy or hard saturn aspects this relationship is commitment type. With Saturn we are always slowly building something solid. Saturn as a planet is very serious and hardworking. Saturn is also very cautious, so don´t expect Saturn to rush into new relationship very quickly. Saturn needs plenty of time to decide if the other person is worth it. And Saturn fears rejection, so if you have any difficult Saturn aspects in synastry, person who represents Saturn has fear of rejection. With difficult Saturn aspects there are usually outer circumstances and other blockages which prevent love relationship to start in a first place. At least it prolongs the time when relationship can be created. We know that Saturn is Lord of Karma, so difficult Saturn aspects awake in both people painful past life memories and are here to master it this time – in this life time. But this experience is never easy.
Soft aspects (trines and sextiles) are the most important when it comes to how stable and solid your relationship will be in the future. Easy Saturn aspects are almost invisible and very rarely felt at the beginning of the relationship. It´s because there is no passion involved, these aspects are experienced as neutral. That´s why they are overlooked in early stages of the relationship.
Saturn in its core is planet of fear. Saturn is especially fear to lose his partner. Saturn takes relationship seriously and is very conservative in its nature. That is from where all the restrictions, limitations, boundaries and his „NO“ comes from. When Saturn is scared, that is when he plays it tough and considers personal planet immature and childish. Problem with Saturn is that this planet is tough on the outside but inside there is vulnerability. This vulnerability is very scary for Saturn person and he does not want to admit it even to himself.
Especially painful are hard Saturn aspects to the Moon or Venus. However, these aspects are very binding and many people stay in these types of relationship despite of how hurtful this experience is. Venus and Moon are two feminine planets that represent love. There is huge trick with difficult Saturn aspects because these are not felt at the beginning. When we start dating, we are not aware how our partner will hurt our feelings one day, reject our love, block his love feelings towards us or how lonely we will feel even in his company. We will experience him to be very cruel and cold in love matters. Saturn brings very painful lessons, especially if you have Moon in Pisces, Cancer or Scorpio. Earth Moon signs, mainly Capricorn and Virgo handle difficult Saturn aspects in synastry much better.